yes but let’s be real, we’re never going to “end” bullying, even with laws. there was already anti-bullying legislation in place in my state when i was in middle school, and yet all authority figures just stood by and watched, even after i had reported the people who bullied me.
and the worst part is, victims are unlikely to actually report it, because the truth is reporting does absolutely nothing for the victim, and just further angers the bully. i’d thought it was bad before i’d reported it, but after that i was tortured to the point where i attempted suicide, repeatedly.
all this “end bullying” stuff is just talk with no substance behind it, and it’s never going to get any substance behind it because it’s already been proven that the laws don’t fucking work.
Translation: “Because we can’t stop 100% of bullying, let’s give up and let the bullies run the earth.”
I am very sorry about what happened to you, but just because we can’t stop all bullying doesn’t mean we can’t try to stop as much as we can.
What I do is try to highlight research, because the best anti-bullying programs are going to come out of solid research, and research will test their effectiveness and build better programs. Here is an example of said research. And mind you, this isn’t just about laws, this is building programs that try to prevent bullying in the first place, not merely punishing bullying. This is research to try to ascertain the causes, to figure out how to induce empathy is children, to find out what is effective and what is not.
Because even if we manage to spare just one child from bullying, isn’t it worthwhile doing? Especially to that child?
Because you know, I would want that.
I was doing my Master’s thesis on bullying until the topic triggered me back to my own childhood so badly I dropped out of that degree program. Let me share something I know.
We haven’t quite found anti-bullying programs that stop bullying once it’s started, but we can reduce the harm bullying does. Just a few small changes to classroom culture, like limiting children’s opportunities to exclude each other, or spending time talking about respectful communication, has visible changes. Yeah, there’s still a hierarchy of popularity, but kids at the bottom of the ladder go from having no friends on average to having one or two. And that’s enough to make or break a childhood. (Sources: one two three four five)
But here’s the other thing.
There is one major factor that mediates the link between childhood bullying and adult mental illnesses (predominantly depression, aniety, and eating disorders). It’s self-blame.
What really damages children isn’t precisely being bullied; it’s believing that they deserve to be bullied. If children don’t blame themselves for being victims, they are much more resilient and experience fewer long-term negative consequences.
Society blames children for their victimization by bullies all the time. It says, “There is something about you that causes people to bully you.” Common responses to bullied kids are things like: “Don’t give them a reaction.” (They’re bullying you because you get upset.) “They’re just jealous.” (They’re bullying you because you do well.) “Let’s teach you some social skills.” (They’re bullying you because you act weird.)
If we can just change that one thing, we could prevent a lot of damage. What bullied kids desperately need at the very least is a caring community that says: You are not alone. It’s not your fault. What they’re doing is not okay.
Sorry to reblog this strip again, but the immediately above reply is a really REALLY important reply. Especially when someone replied on the Facebook page that it takes two to tango when it comes to bullying ( https://m.facebook.com/depressioncomix/photos/a.289230341197523.70369.289226297864594/628624727258081 ).
|Western Patriarchy:||A woman wearing revealing clothing is just asking to be raped. If she hadn't worn that short skirt out in public, she wouldn't have been assaulted. It's her fault for dressing like a slut and then trusting men not to treat her like one.|
|Western Patriarchy:||Women who wear religious head coverings and hide their skin in public are so oppressed! It's not like she's going to get raped just because a man sees her ankles or neck! Why don't those women stop covering their bodies and just learn to trust men?|
Crows are scary
- use tools
- Can be taught to speak (like parrots)
- Have huge brains for birds
- like seriously their brain-to-body size ratio is equal to that of a chimpanzee
- They vocalize anger, sadness, or happiness in response to things
- they are scary smart at solving puzzles
- some ravens stay with their mates until one of them dies
- they can remember faces
- SIDENOTE HERE BECAUSE HOLY SHIT. They did an experiment where these guys wore masks and some of them fucked with crows. Pretty soon the crows recognized the masks = douchebag. But the nice guys with masks they left alone. THEN, OH WE’RE NOT DONE, NO SIR crows that WEREN’T EVEN IN THE EXPERIMENT AND NEVER SAW THE MASK BEFORE knew about mask-dudes and attacked them on sight. THEY PASSED ON THE FUCKING INFORMATION TO THEIR CROW BUDDIES.
- They remember places where crows were killed by farmers and change their migration patterns.
Guys I’m really scared of crows now.
i love crows so much
crows are amazing
My favorite legend is that crows are the souls of the dead
crows are the coolest shit
Yeah but have you seen this
I love crows
Why be scared of them? They are awesome.
Because white women are the primary beneficiaries of affirmative action, but no one calls that “special treatment”. #RaceMatters
You go girl. Exactly!
this is how to be an ally in racial matters
WE FOUND IT.
WE FOUND BETELGEUSE FIVE.
Remember when we read about touchscreen and ebook before those things exist? Now if you’ll excuse me, I need to find myself a nice towel.
|Woman:||*on cellphone* Why am I leaving you? Why am I--I'll tell you why.|
|Woman:||Here's why. You don't respect me.|
|Woman:||You called me a whore in front of my children.|
|Me:||*says nothing, but has a face like O.O*|
|Woman:||You don't respect me. And you know, there some white chick here in the store, she walking, she heard me say that and she make a face.|
|Woman:||Because even she know you a piece of shit.|
When I say “boys are dumb” what I really mean is “boys have been raised in a patriarchal society that forces them into an incorrect and problematic view of masculinity that not only forces them to strip away valuable virtues from themselves, like patience and gentleness, but also forces them them to view and treat women in unhealthy ways that devalues women as people and makes them into objects purely for a man’s benefit”
but it’s a lot faster to say “boys are dumb”
This is how one of the first roller girls looks now.
More about her tattoos: http://www.riverreporter.com/issues/08-12-25/news-tattoos.html
The answer to the age old question of “What will those tattoos look like when you’re older?” is….Like an old bad ass.